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Happy New Year
Well, I almost didn’t write a 2015 post. I genuinely didn’t think enough had happened, then I realised maybe a lot did.
I mean, I made a Twitter for my author stuff, I made a blog for my author stuff, and, well actually, I became an author, (a professional one, since I’ve had £2.51 transferred into my bank account.)
I actually published my first piece of work this year, and that nudge inspired me to actually think seriously about writing other things. I was really quite proud of myself for writing my 100-page asexual love story in Basorexia, I genuinely, when reading it back couldn’t believe I’d actually written it, and that gave me my extra push.
Tomorrow, I will release my first ever cover, of my first ever book, A, and I am beyond excited for it.
I’m a little excited for 2016 as well, actually when I think about it.
So, here’s to 2016!
Finlay X
Wishing Everyone a Very Merry Christmas
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My Author Bio…
It’s hard, when you’re a kid and you cannot relate to romance. It’s hard to read something and not understand the sexual pull, or the desire to be with someone else, it’s hard not being able to find someone like you in a book, especially when there are vampires, and wizards, ghosts, and angels, how can there not be asexuals?
My name is Finlay Harper, I’m 20 years of age and am based in Liverpool, UK. I am also asexual. I didn’t really begin writing until a friend of mine R.J. Seeley asked me if I wanted to take part in a book, and I did, I’d been looking for a good excuse to write, and now I’d been handed one on a plate, and taking part in writing Basorexia: The Overwhelming Desire to Kiss gave me such a boost, that I just couldn’t stop.
I wanted to create characters, I wanted to write love stories, and most of all I wanted to make them asexual. I wanted to write homoromantics, heteroromantics, aromantics, I wanted to write asexual in relationships with sexuals, I wanted to write asexuals in relationships with other asexuals. I want to write every kind of asexual, in every kind of situation I can, I want to make asexual fiction BIG.
You can find me on Twitter @FinlayHarper
And on Goodreads Finlay Harper
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My Asexual Story
Right, well, I’ve been putting off posting this out of nervousness and all that jazz, but here it goes, as it is Asexual Awareness Week, this is my asexual story.
I have been careful to remove any ‘adult terms’ and have tired to keep it as PG13 as I could, but, some may slip through, so please, read at your own will, but you have been warned.
I as a then 18 year old male, was relieved to find out that there was a word for me, I should, really started this at when I discovered the word, but instead I think I’ll start it before.
This shall start around age 13, when a friend of mine whispered to me about how he had secretly indulged in some overaged porn the night before, and everything ‘woke up‘, I remember not quite understanding what he meant, I had never experienced anything of the sort, so of course initiated The Porn Experiment, needless to say the test came back unsuccessful, there was an error within the results, but, as I was 13 it meant nothing to me, it was just an unsuccessful experiment, which I never ever shared with said friend, and never will, as that friend stopped the whole friend thing when we were 17, and I was still a virgin, which to him, was not cool, at all.
I was around 16 when I realised there was genuinely no sex drive there, I was staying at a friends, who was very excited about the idea of sleeping with his girlfriend at the time. I didn’t see the attractiveness in it, so I asked ‘Why is it so exciting?” He however, didn’t have a reply, he genuinely didn’t know, and after thinking about it for a while came up with ‘I thought you where supposed to be excited about sex.‘ I told him I wasn’t, and that became the saga which is known as ‘When Finlay lost his sex drive.’
I came out as gay when I was 17, I thought that would be the answer to all my problems, but if anything it was the start of more. The idea of sex had become a big part of my friends lives, and they persuaded it, to which I have no problem, but I became known amongst the clubs we hopped as the prude, the guy who wouldn’t put out, soon guys just stopped asking me, and I liked it that way, I could go out with my friends, have a drink then go home alone. I enjoyed that, and my friends didn’t care if I’d hooked up or not, as I was not their main priority.
Asexuality made itself known to me about 18 months ago, on a Facebook scroll, one of my friends had shared a post about asexuality and it caught my eye, so I researched it, I really researched it, and it hit me like a fucking train, everything just began to make sense, everything fell into place, I was asexual.
I was a homoromantic asexual.
This is Me!
My name is Finlay Harper, I am 20 years old. I was born on the 20th July ’95. Im a British author, based in Liverpool.
I am asexual. I discovered I was asexual when I left school (16), when all my friends where starting to enjoy sex, I never did. I guess I like boys more than I like girls. Sort of always have. I came out as asexual when I was 18, it appeared to confuse my parents, as I’d come out as gay years before, but once I explained it, they got the general gist. As did most of my friends. It was all pretty okay.
It did, however, sadden me when looking for online support, and finding a lot of discouragement for asexuals. I vowed to try and change that.
I was always too scared to write. I’d always been a little bit too anxious to sit and write a sentence never mind a novel. I was brought into a project in early 2013, a project called the Basorexia project, ran by a good friend of mine. I wrote an asexual love story. Something I would always have planned to write, and I enjoyed it, I really enjoyed it. I feel in love with writing and just had to continue, so I have.
All of my books will be asexual lead, they all have asexual main characters, some of them will be in romantic relationships, some will not, some will be in relationships with other asexuals, some with other ‘sexuals’, I want to abolish everything that has been thought about asexuality, I want to ensure people know about asexuality, and people know how it can vary!
You can read my debut Basorexia, you can pre-order it now, and it will be available the 30th September.
But don’t worry, I have 4 books in the rocks, which I am very, very excited about!
Finlay x
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